Honorary Pallbearers: What the Role Means and Who to Choose
Updated April 2026 · 6 min read · Companion to our main pallbearer guide
Pallbearer Etiquette
Honorary pallbearers are named in the program and walk alongside the casket — but don't physically carry it. Here's when to use the role, when not to, and who traditionally receives the honor.
What an Honorary Pallbearer Actually Is
- • Named in the funeral program by name
- • Walks alongside the casket during the processional and recessional
- • Does NOT bear the physical weight of the casket
- • Is a recognition of relationship, not a job
- • Commonly given to close friends, colleagues, or family who cannot physically carry
The Difference From Active Pallbearers
| Active Pallbearer | Honorary Pallbearer | |
|---|---|---|
| Carries casket | Yes | No |
| Named in program | Yes | Yes |
| Needs physical ability | Yes | No |
| Role during ceremony | Physical duty | Walking presence |
| Number typically needed | 6 (sometimes 4–8) | Unlimited — family choice |
| Expected attire | Full pallbearer dress code | Same or slightly less formal |
Who Traditionally Receives Honorary Pallbearer Status
- Elderly family members or friends who can't physically carry
- Close friends or business partners of the deceased
- Public figures or representatives (mayor, clergy, organization leaders)
- Children or grandchildren too young to carry
- Someone who declined active pallbearing due to grief
- Someone traveling from far away whose carrying ability is uncertain
How to Ask Someone to Be an Honorary Pallbearer
Suggested wording
"We'd like to name you as an honorary pallbearer — you wouldn't need to carry, just walk with the procession and be named in the program."
- Explain it doesn't require physical work
- Mention the program will list their name
- Ask if they want to speak or participate further
When NOT to Use Honorary Pallbearers
When the family is struggling to find active pallbearers. Naming someone "honorary" because no one else will carry can feel like a consolation prize. Better to ask directly.
When the person can physically carry but you're uncomfortable asking. Just ask. Let them decline if they need to.
When the honorary list would be longer than the active list. The honorary role is meaningful precisely because it's selective. Keep it smaller.