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For Margaret — written by by daughter Sarah
My mom made pancakes every Sunday for forty-three years. She always burned the first one. Always. She'd flip it, look at it, sigh, and put it on her own plate. "Cook's penalty," she'd say, and laugh.
That was Margaret. Generous, even with the small things. Especially with the small things.
She was practical. She was funny in a quiet way that you had to be paying attention to catch. She remembered birthdays — not just the ones she was supposed to, but the second cousin in Ohio she'd met twice. She wrote things down in a little notebook by the phone. She believed strongly in thank-you cards and weak coffee.
She raised three of us on a teacher's salary and never made it feel like she was. We had what we needed. We had her — at school plays, at the dinner table, in the kitchen at midnight when one of us couldn't sleep.
What I want you to know about my mother is this: she was a person who took the burned pancake on purpose. Not because nobody noticed. Because she had decided, somewhere a long time ago, that other people came first, and that this was a small enough way to prove it that she could do it forever.
So thank you, Mom. For Sundays. For the burned pancakes. For taking the small hits so we wouldn't have to. We are who we are because you were who you were. And we will not forget.
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If you'd rather write the eulogy yourself, start with one of these proven structures. Each is designed to read aloud naturally and to keep you from getting lost in the middle. Replace the bracketed sections with your own words.
Traditional eulogy
My name is [YOUR NAME], and I have the honor of speaking today about my [RELATIONSHIP], [NAME]. [NAME] was [THREE OR FOUR DESCRIBING WORDS] — someone who [ONE SHORT EXAMPLE OF WHO THEY WERE]. One memory I keep coming back to is this: [SPECIFIC STORY, 2–4 SENTENCES]. That was [NAME]. That was who they were, in one small moment. [NAME] loved [LIST WHAT THEY LOVED — PEOPLE, PLACES, HOBBIES]. Those weren't just things they did. They were how they showed up in the world. [OPTIONAL: SOMETHING THEY ALWAYS SAID, IN QUOTES.] What I want you to remember about [NAME] is this: [ONE SENTENCE LEGACY LINE]. That is the gift of having known them. Thank you, [NAME]. We will carry you with us.
Short eulogy (under 3 minutes)
I'm [YOUR NAME], [NAME]'s [RELATIONSHIP]. Three words for [NAME]: [WORD 1], [WORD 2], and [WORD 3]. If you knew them, you know exactly what I mean. There's one moment I want to share, because it says everything: [ONE SHORT STORY, 2–3 SENTENCES]. [NAME] was the kind of person who [ONE-LINE OBSERVATION ABOUT THEIR CHARACTER]. What I want you to take with you today is this: [ONE-SENTENCE LEGACY]. [NAME], thank you. We loved you. We always will.
Celebration of life eulogy
Hi everyone. I'm [YOUR NAME]. We are not here today to be sad — well, we are, but not only that. We are here to talk about [NAME], and that is going to involve some laughing. If you knew [NAME] at all, you knew they were [DESCRIPTOR 1], [DESCRIPTOR 2], and absolutely [DESCRIPTOR 3]. Let me tell you one story. [SHORT, WARM, GENTLY FUNNY MEMORY]. [NAME] loved [LIST OF THINGS THEY LOVED]. Hard. Wholeheartedly. The way you're supposed to. Years from now, when people ask me what [NAME] was like, I'm going to tell them this: [ONE-SENTENCE LEGACY LINE]. Here's to [NAME]. To a life well lived. To a heart well loved. We'll meet you at the next good story.
How to write a eulogy that honors their life
A eulogy is not a biography. It is not a list of accomplishments. It is a few minutes of honest, specific words that bring one person back into the room. Below is a short, practical walk-through — written for someone who has never done this before, and may be doing it under hard circumstances.
How to start a eulogy
Skip the formal openings. Introduce yourself in one sentence — your name and your relationship to the person — and then go straight to a small, specific moment that tells the audience who they were. The first thirty seconds should feel like the start of a story, not the start of a speech.
What to include in the body
Pick two or three things that capture the person, and tell one short story for each. The story is what makes it land — not the adjectives. Aim for sensory detail: a place, a time of day, a thing they said. Mention what they loved, what they believed in, and one moment that shows their character better than any list could. If they had a phrase they used often, include it — quotes are powerful. If you can include one moment of gentle humor, do; a knowing laugh is one of the most healing things a grieving room can share.
How to end a eulogy
End deliberately. Don't trail off. The most powerful closings are direct address — speaking to the person you've just spent five minutes describing. “Thank you, Mom.” “Goodbye, my friend.” A short, true sentence is stronger than a flourish.
How long should a eulogy be?
Three to seven minutes when read aloud. That's roughly 400 to 1,000 words. Shorter is almost always better than longer. If you have more than that, you have material for a second eulogy, not a longer one. Pick the moments that mean the most.
What to say in a eulogy
Say who they were, not just what they did. Share two or three specific memories. Mention what they loved. Name what you'll miss. End with one sentence about how you want them remembered — and let that sentence be the last word.
“Read it aloud, alone, before you read it for them. The page can hold what your voice can’t yet.”
What's the difference?
The two are easy to confuse, but they do different jobs. A eulogy is the spoken tribute at the service. An obituary is the written notice published in a newspaper or online. Most services need both.
| Eulogy | Obituary | |
|---|---|---|
| Format | Spoken | Written |
| Where | At the funeral or memorial | Newspaper, funeral home website |
| Length | 3–7 minutes (400–1,000 words) | 150–400 words typically |
| Tone | Personal, story-driven, emotional | Factual, formal, biographical |
| Purpose | Honor who they were as a person | Announce the death and service details |
Need to write the obituary too? See our obituary writing guide and obituary templates.
Common mistakes to avoid in a eulogy
Most of these are forgivable. The audience is on your side. But avoiding them will make the speech land harder and feel more like the person you're honoring.
- Reaching for clichés. Phrases like “in a better place” or “lost their battle” land flat. Use your own words, even if they're plainer.
- Listing accomplishments instead of telling stories. A résumé doesn't move anyone. One specific story does.
- Going too long. Past seven minutes, attention drifts and the room loses the thread. Cut what you don't truly need.
- Bringing up family conflicts or old grievances. Whatever you're tempted to say, say it later. Not from the lectern.
- Speaking only to the family. Some of the audience is more distant. Include them — give them a way in.
- Idealizing them past recognition. A perfect saint is harder to mourn than a real, flawed, beloved person. Keep them human.
- Reading it cold. Practice out loud at least three times. The fourth read is steadier than the first.
- Apologizing for crying. Don't. Tears in a eulogy are a tribute, not a failure.
Tips for delivering a eulogy without breaking down
You will probably feel some emotion. That is appropriate, and the room expects it. The goal is not to be unmoved — it's to be able to finish. A few practical things help.
- Practice out loud. Three to five times, all the way through. The hardest sentences get easier with repetition.
- Bring water. A pause to sip is invisible. It buys you ten seconds to breathe and gather yourself.
- Have a backup reader. Pick someone in advance — a sibling, a friend, the funeral director — who can step in if you can't continue. Just having that safety net helps.
- Allow pauses. Silence in a eulogy is powerful, not awkward. The room will wait with you.
- Print it large. 16–18pt, double-spaced, on paper. Easy to read with watery eyes.
- Look at one friendly face. Pick a person near the back to anchor to. You don't need to make eye contact with everyone.
- Accept the tears. If they come, let them. The audience is grateful, not uncomfortable. Then keep going.
Frequently asked
What is a eulogy?
A eulogy is a speech given at a funeral or memorial that honors someone who has died. It's typically delivered by a close family member or friend, runs 3–7 minutes, and shares who the person was — their character, their stories, what they meant. A eulogy is personal and emotional, unlike an obituary, which is a written factual notice.
How long should a eulogy be?
A typical eulogy runs 3 to 7 minutes when read aloud, which is roughly 400 to 1,000 words. Shorter is almost always better than longer. If you have a lot to say, pick the most meaningful moments rather than trying to cover everything. The audience will remember feeling, not facts.
How do you start a eulogy?
Skip “We are gathered here today” and start with something specific. Introduce yourself and your relationship to the person, then go straight into a moment that captures who they were. The first 30 seconds set the tone — make it personal, not formal. A small, true story is stronger than a grand statement.
How do you end a eulogy?
End with something the audience can carry with them — a line that captures who the person was or how you want them remembered. Direct address works beautifully (“Goodbye, Mom. Thank you for everything.”). Avoid trailing off; the last sentence should feel deliberate, like setting something carefully down.
What should you say in a eulogy?
Share who they were, not just what they did. Include 2–3 specific memories or stories that show their character. Mention what they loved, what they believed in, and what they meant to the people closest to them. End with what you want others to remember about them.
What makes a good eulogy?
A good eulogy is specific, honest, and short enough to land. It tells one or two real stories instead of listing accomplishments. It honors the person without idealizing them. It makes the room feel something — laughter, tears, recognition. The best eulogies sound like the speaker really knew the person.
Is it okay to use humor in a eulogy?
Yes, if it fits who they were. Gentle humor is one of the most healing things you can offer a grieving room. Avoid jokes at the deceased's expense or anything that could land wrong. A warm, knowing laugh together is often the most powerful moment of a service.
What should you NOT say in a eulogy?
Avoid clichés like “in a better place” or “lost their battle.” Skip family conflicts, awkward stories, anything political, and details the person would have wanted private. Don't compare your grief to anyone else's. And don't speak for the deceased about their beliefs unless you're certain.
How do you write a eulogy if you weren't close to the person?
Be honest about the relationship you did have. A coworker, a neighbor, a friend from one chapter of their life — those perspectives matter. Share what you saw and what you respected. Don't try to fake intimacy; speak from your real vantage point and the audience will feel it.
Can someone else read the eulogy for me?
Absolutely. There's no shame in asking a friend, family member, or the funeral director to read it for you if you don't trust your voice in the moment. You can still write it — having someone else deliver it is common and completely acceptable.
Should a eulogy be religious?
Only if it reflects who the person was. If they were faithful, religious language honors them. If they weren't, it's fine to leave it out. Match the words to their life, not to the venue. Mixed audiences are common — speak from their values, whatever those were.
How do I keep from crying during a eulogy?
Practice reading it out loud several times — the more you've heard your own voice say the words, the steadier it gets. Pause when you need to. Drink water. Have a tissue ready. Most importantly, give yourself permission: tears during a eulogy are not a failure. They are a tribute.
Is it okay to use a eulogy generator or template?
Yes. A tool can give you structure when grief makes structure impossible. Think of it as scaffolding — you provide the memories, the love, the truth of who they were, and the tool helps shape it. Read every word, edit freely, and make sure the final eulogy sounds like you.
What's the difference between a eulogy and an obituary?
A eulogy is spoken at a service and is personal, story-driven, and emotional. An obituary is written for publication and is factual: name, dates, surviving family, service details. A eulogy says who they were; an obituary says they were here. Most services need both.
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